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5 MUST-READ Books that Will Spice Up and Strengthen Your Marriage

5 MUST-READ Books that Will Spice Up and Strengthen Your Marriage

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Note- I am divorced now but because I feel that the books in this article helped me so much during my marriage, I left this article up.

Love can be LEARNED and UNLEARNED. We are often forgetting things we know at one time or another. For example, do you remember everything you learned in Calculus? How about all the countries in the world and their major water sources that you had to memorize in Jr. High?  No, nor do I. In just the same way we need to learn and relearn ways to help our relationships and marriage.


1. Please Understand Me 2 by David Keirsey – This is the most accurate book on personalities and understanding personalities that I have ever read. And being a student of human relations and psychology for years I have read a lot! This book has been used by over 40 million people worldwide. Many businesses’ use it as well.

So I encourage you to either rent the book from the library, try the test out for free, or even buy it. I can almost guarantee you will see that it is accurate and it will help you understand yourself and your spouse better. Understanding why we do the things we do is major in marriage. Further, there is a section on relationships and romance that explains how each type of person gets along with each other and communicates. Even if you aren’t married or in a relationship this book is a MUST READ!

You can take the test for free here as well.

5 MUST-READ Books that Will Spice Up and Strengthen Your Marriage

 2. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert. By Dr. John M. Gottman– Wow! All I can say is that I’m soooo grateful for this book. It was given to me by my uncle. My husband and I read it on one of our first road trips as newlyweds. We learned probably the most influential things I’ve learned about marriage. John M. Gottman the author studied multiple marriages for years and years (observing couples for a select amount of time through cameras and microphones placed in kitchens and other public rooms). He then kept track of these couples and made notes of which stayed married for years to come and which ones got divorced.

Using this research he then pinpointed what made the difference between the marriages that lasted and those that didn’t. They were shockingly simple like sharing things with each other and communicating about the small stuff. Laughing off arguments instead of sitting down and hashing them out. There are multiple other treasures in this book and I highly, highly, highly, recommend reading it! Any book by John M Gottman on marriage and relationships is a MUST READ for me.

5 MUST-READ Books that Will Spice Up and Strengthen Your Marriage

3. The Five Love Languages by Gary D Chapman– Everyone feels the love in a certain way. Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gift Giving, and Acts of Service. Not only is it really great to learn how to optimally show your husband or wife love, but it can help you communicate to them what you really hold dear. I’d highly recommend taking it and having your spouse take it too.

5 MUST-READ Books that Will Spice Up and Strengthen Your Marriage

4. The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage Dr. Laura Schlessinger- This book will show you how to turn a resentful spouse into a love-struck-twitterpated partner again. Her advice works! The book is based on what makes both genders feel valued and appreciated. If both sides are willing to work at it her recommendations do work. She doesn’t sugar coat things and tells it how it is.

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5. Sheet Music- Uncovering the Secrets of  Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

An awesome book that will help ‘spice up’ intimacy in marriage. Click through to read more reviews.

What books have added spice and strength to your relationships?


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Sara Lyn

Wednesday 22nd of February 2017

Based on your list, I think you'd love "Wife for Life" by Ramona Zabriskie. She talks a lot about the WHY of marriage and how to build a grand marriage. It's a book I refer to often!


Sunday 20th of July 2014

The Act of Marriage was recommended to my husband and I during our marriage counseling prior to getting married. Excellent read! It put a lot of things into perspective about getting married and things to expect after marriage.

Anita Fowler

Monday 21st of July 2014

This is a fantastic book! I read it before marriage and have suggested it to many engaged couples. I've even suggested it to some married friends who needed help in the 'spicing up' area and they found it very useful. Thanks so much for mentioning the book!

Jodee akers

Sunday 29th of June 2014

How we love by Milan and Kay yerkovich is great!

Cathy Guyer

Thursday 5th of June 2014

The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage is awesome! At first glance it may come across as sexist, but it absolutely is not. Such great info on how to show love in a way that your spouse recognizes. Great book!

Anita Fowler

Thursday 5th of June 2014

Cathy- I totally agree with this! It does seem like that is where the book is heading but its not! It's just a different way to look at the relationship between husband and wife which I've found helpful.


Thursday 22nd of May 2014

I love the Love and Respect Series. They have videos and books! Also for our Marriage counseling my husband and I had to use The Exemplary Husband: A Biblical Perspective, The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective! Great books!! Ones you could read years later and have it apply in a whole new way!

Anita Fowler

Tuesday 27th of May 2014

Rachel- Thanks for the great recommendations! I appreciate it. This Love and Respect Series has great reviews. The Exemplary Husband and The Excellent Wife have great reviews on Amazon as well. I will definitely check them out. Thanks!